A few months ago one of my close friends (a girl) shared a story about how unpleasant it is to deal with a person who has queen bee syndrome. If you google it, you will find so many articles about it, but it is mostly about queen bee attitude at the working place. In my friend’s case, the queen bee is not in her working place, this person is even one of her friends. That’s so terrible. 😦
Well, I will describe a little about it. A queen bee is a woman who tends to treat other women badly, it can be the way she look at another woman condescendingly, it can be how she ignores women and acts verrrry nice towards men, it can be throwing harsh words to another woman, or the worst.. it can be physical abuse towards another woman.
When my friend told me that story, I didn’t believe it, I said to her maybe the person that she mentioned as queen bee was in a badmood, PMS, or something else. But recently, I kinda feel what she felt. I finally met a person who might have a queen bee syndrome also. Now I really feel bad to my friend for ignoring her feelings at that time. 😦
So, I’m a very shy person when I have to meet new people, when I have to be in a very new place.. alone. I really hate to admit it, but yes, I’m like that. But the good thing is, after I finally feel comfortable with people there, I will be able to open up or even be crazy with them, lol. So, I think it’s okay then. Haha. And here comes the queen bee, I didn’t realized her queen bee attitude at that time because she was very very very warm, she started conversation with me, and she even helped me for several things. After a while, she suddenly changed drastically, she became colder than the iceberg. I kinda feel disappointed because I thought she’s cool and we could be good friends. Yes, I’m shy and introvert but I really love to make friends and maintain friendships, it will take a while but I will be your good friend (unless if you’re a narcissist, psychopath, sociopath, or even a criminal, lol). I can assume that she has a queen bee syndrome because the way she behaves towards me (and also there’s another female friend that feels the same, I already confirmed to her) versus the way she behaves towards men or towards women who’s ‘privileged’ is totally different. I don’t know why she’s like that Life is not a competition, I don’t think it’s good to treat the others like rivals. I don’t even have the same goals with her I guess. Even if we had, it’s better to support each other isn’t it?
Anyway, my case is also about friendship, I feel blessed that I haven’t face someone who has this queen bee syndrome so far in working environment. Alhamdulillaah. I hope I will never, that’s scary. Haha.
Yea, that’s all. I’m disappointed. But it’s okay, I will take a lesson learned from this, I promise myself that I will try my best to be kind to everyone, not only towards men or any gender with privilege. If there’s a moment that I cannot be kind (maybe because of bad day, PMS, brokenheart, etc.), I will still try to response with kindness even just one or two sentences, I promise myself not to be a rude person. Ikhma bisa!! Semangat!!